Your Child's Anger May Not be What You Think It Is

Wed, 22 Feb 2012 00:35:54 -0500

Parenting today seems challenging and fraught with frustrations.Children are so much more vocal about expressing their angryfeelings. If you're a parent, how have you felt when your childbombards you with angry, argumentative words? Did you feelmanipulated and controlled; thinking your child doesn't careabout your feelings andor all the effort you put forth in hisor her life? That's how I used to feel, until I learned there'susually something more going on beneath a child's anger. Now,it's much easier for me to remain calm when a child is upsetwith me. I want to share some thoughts and ideas about this.When a child responds angrily to a parent's message, thatmessage has not gone to the thinking part of the child's brain.No, it has not reached the front part of the brain that doeslogical, rational thinking and problem solving. It has actuallytraveled to the part of the brain dealing with emotions. Mostpeople know this as the limbic system, which is located in thecentral...

Escaping a Toxic Environment

Mon, 20 Feb 2012 09:50:54 -0500

By definition, a toxin is a poisonous substance that kills,injures, or impairs an organism. A toxin can also inhibit theactivity of another substance. Applying this definition to yourday-to-day living, it may surprise you to realize how manythings and people in your life are creating a toxicenvironment.What are potential toxins in your daily living? Toxins can bepeople that make you feel bad, things that are holding you backfrom your goals, or situations that make you physically ill. Atoxin can be a behavior, a person, or an object. But anythingthat "impairs" you or "inhibits activity" is toxic.Let's look at an example. Suppose you wanted to get a betterjob. The current job you have doesn't pay enough, is verystressful, and is not a good fit for your personality. Thecareer you would like to pursue requires a degree which youdon't have and relies heavily on networking to secure aposition. In this example there are several toxins at play. Twoobvious ones are your cur...

Is Your Child Included in Your Financial Plan and Decisions?

Sun, 19 Feb 2012 08:52:41 -0500

Devotion to a child makes some parents neglect their health, appearances and most apparently love and relationships, trying to search for a better life for it.However, my biggest worry is if you have included your child in your financial plans and decisions, and to what extent is he or she?Many parents will argue that this is all about paying mortgages for the best house for the child to live-in and driving them around in new car models. Others will be comfortable buying them the latest fashion in wear, enrolling them in highly paid and recognized schools or taking them to vacation in glamorous places.All this is good, but you as a parent, need to consider that now you may be alive, tomorrow you may be gone, if that happen, can you die in peace knowing that your child will consider your hustle and handwork?Many children today are extravagant, they feel that a parent should be responsible for them for eternity, and they are spendthrifts in useless things.It is for this reason that you m...

After Domestic Violence: Know Your Rights and Resources

Sat, 18 Feb 2012 07:19:16 -0500

Unfortunately, domestic violence happens every day in the United States. It's a heinous crime that for some men and women may become a significant part of their life. In fact, according to a report sponsored by the National Institute of Justice and the Centers of Disease Control and Prevention, one in four women will experience this crime in her lifetime. Some may feel that they have nowhere to turn or limited resources available to them in escaping an abusive partner. In fact, taking that first step is often the hardest part for some victims. When victims know their rights following this crime and are aware of their resources, they may find a new life far away from violence in the household. In many cases, a lawyer has been helpful in helping victims determine their legal rights in such cases. They may also be helpful in pointing these people in the right direction in terms of available resources.Women's shelters and other centers in your state may be readily available to victims of d...